Speech by Chetan Bhagat @ Symbiosis

"Don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order. There is a no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of worries. Life is like one of those race we use to have in schools where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point in coming first. Same is with life where health, relationships & mental peace are like marbles. Your striving is only worth if there is harmony in your life. Else you may achieve the success but the spark, the feeling of excitement will start to die."

Quotes!!!

• Only thinking of survival will lead to death. Think of progress & you'll never die...
• Everyone is good to you till you expect nothing from them & you're good to everyone till you can fulfill their expectations!
• A success in life doesn't mean only to reach the desired destination but it is also about enjoying the journey.
• Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event, because what the mind can conceive & believe, a man can achieve!
• Mistakes increase your experience & the experience decreases your mistakes.
• Learn from your mistakes & let others learn from your success.
• Life gives answers to your request in 3 ways: it says 'yes' & gives what you want, it says 'no'& gives you something better or it says 'wait' to give you the best!
• Lots of people know what to do but very few people actually do what they know.
• True success comes to those who experience deep happiness in their daily life & are prepared to put off short term pleasures for the sake of long term fulfillment.
• Life doesn't get better by chance but it gets better by change. The chance comes from outside while the change takes place inside.
• A small dot stops a big sentence but a few more dots can give a continuity. Every ending can be a new beginning.
• A strong & positive attitude creates more miracles than any other thing because life is 10% how you make it & 90% how you take it!

Some good Quotes

• The human spirit needs places where nature has not been rearranged by the hand of man.
• If you accept your limitations, you go beyond them. -Brendan Francis Behan
• The biggest problem in the world could have been solved when it was small. -Witter Byner
• The happiest business in all the world is that of making friends. -Anne S. Eaton
• You will never taste sweetness if you do not like bitterness. -Estonian Proverb
• Remember that the biggest gap in the world is between "I should" & "I did". -H.J.Brown Jr.
• If you love somebody enough, you can still hear the laughter after they're gone. -Al Baker
• Like swimming, riding, writting or playing golf; happiness can be learned. -Boris Sokoloff
• Patience often gets the credit that belongs to fatigue. -Franklin P. Jones
• Before you complain about the darkness of the tunnel, remember that it is a shortcut through the mountains.
• A bad decision is when you know what to do & you don't do it. -Duncan Goodhew
• Open up doors for talented people below, beside & above you. Then you'll be surrounded by the best. -Carol Dibattiste
• The first step in solving a problem is to tell someone about it. -John Peter Flynn
• Poise means never fighting yourself. -Bob Tyler

તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!

વિદ્યા આવે અને વિનય ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
ધન આવે અને ધર્મ ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
સત્તા મળે અને સૌજન્ય ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
સિધ્ધિ મળે પણ સદાચાર ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
સમૃધ્ધિ મળે પણ સદવર્તન ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
કુશળતા આવે પણ સમજણ ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
જોબન આવે પણ સંયમ ન વિસરાય....
તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે!
એટલે કે, પ્રત્યેક સ્થિતિમાં આંતરિક પવિત્રતા, નિરાભિમાનિતા, નમ્રતા અને ઈમાનદારી હેમખેમ રાખી શકો તો સમજવું કે તમારી ઉપર ઈશ્વરકૃપા છે! અને આ જ જીવન જીવવાની સર્વશ્રેષ્ઠ રીત છે!

5 stages of relationships

"There seems 5 stages of any relationship to me.They're attraction, acceptance, progression, maintenance & consolidation. At the onset of relationship, it's mostly physical attraction. Then comes the mental acceptance followed by mutual progression. The last two stages are really difficult but nevertheless most important.It requires careful maintenance of a relationship to give it an lasting consolidation. That's when you can say the relationship to have truly matured. The initial steps are mostly taken subconsciously but last two require conscious efforts from the concerned persons. They don't just happen on their own. It demands a gr8 amount of care & commitment, patience & perseverance, sacrifice & sensibility to achieve such kind of eternal relationship! " This thought I've written a few months back after the discussion with a lady friend about relationship, particularly that of couples, be it a married one or that claim to be in love with each other. That got me to think what the real love should mean especially in committed relationships like marriage. This reminded me a quote from a writing which probably should satisfy all the requirements of the definition of true love in any lasting relationship. It says,"પ્રેમ એ પવિત્રતાની મૂર્તિ છે. એ હ્રદયમાં ઉદભવેલું નૈસર્ગિક ઝરણું છે. વફાદારી અને સમર્પણ એના ફેફસાં છે. સહનશક્તિ અને શ્રધ્ધાપૂર્વક વિશ્વાસ એનો પ્રાણવાયુ છે. અદ્વૈતતા અને અભેદત્વની અનુભૂતિ એ એનું જીવનબળ છે. પ્રેમ એટલે પોતાને ગમતી વ્યક્તિને પ્રસન્નતા અર્પવાની બિનશરતી તૈયારી!" Sometimes we fail to distinguish between romance & love. Romance is an art of expressing your emotions to your loved ones. It is used to charm someone with an expressive act like giving flowers or candle-light dinner etc. Love is all about feeling other persons emotions & caring for your loved ones. It may be in the form of wearing the clothes of his/her choice or arranging for financial securities like insurance, bank deposits etc., in case anything happens to you. It may not look romantic at all but it may be better than plain romance in terms of caring & loving. Romance is all physical & outwardly. Love is absolutely inwardly & eternal. Romance may or may not be there in your relationship, depending upon your nature. But love is the most essential ingredient for any successful relation. As someone has rightly said that the formula for the successful relationship is,"Treat all disasters as if they were trivialities but never treat a triviality as if it was a disaster!" If we can get these words right in our mind, I don't think we'll have any problem with having & handling our most important relationships. किशोरदा का ये गाना भी तो यही बात का इशारा कर रहा है,
"कुछ लोग इक रोज़ जो बिछड़ जातें हैं,
वो हजारों के आने से मिलते नहीं;
उम्रभर चाहे कोई पुकारा करे उनका नाम;
वो फ़िर नहीं आते, वो फ़िर नहीं आते।
कल तड़पना पड़े याद में जिनकी,
रोक लो रूठकर उनको जाने न दो;
बादमें प्यारके चाहे भेजो हजारों सलाम;
वो फ़िर नहीं आते, वो फ़िर नहीं आते।
जिंदगीके सफर में गुज़र जातें हैं जो मकाम;
वो फ़िर नहीं आते, वो फ़िर नहीं आते।"